n our last blog post, we talked about the importance of eye contact and how it is vital to succeeding in your job interview. Today we will look at some of the ways that you can train yourself to make better eye contact during your interview.
How to Make Eye Contact For Those That Seriously Struggle
Some people can make eye contact most of the time but struggle to hold onto it. Others are simply terrible at making eye contact and shy away from even the slightest eye to eye glance. Below are tips for those that have severe problems with eye contact due to shyness or social upbringing.
- Practice Staring at Yourself
Interestingly, one of the most difficult people to make eye contact with is often yourself. People are highly judgmental of themselves and often do not like looking directly into their own eyes. If you cannot look into your own eyes, you will not be able to let your interviewer stare directly at you without feeling discomfort. Practice staring directly into your own eyes in a mirror until you are comfortable doing so.
- Practice Staring into the Eyes of a Friend
When you start out you want to be comfortable. Stare directly into the eyes of a friend that makes good eye contact. Feel free and have fun while you do it. Talk about whatever you like, laugh about the fact that you are staring into each other’s eyes. It doesn’t matter. Just get used to the idea of looking your friend in the eyes.
- Practice Staring into the Eyes of Someone Older
Sometimes eye contact is harder with people that have more life experience. Make sure you practice making eye contact with men and women of authority. See if you can find someone to volunteer to work with you.
Don’t Forget to Blink – This Isn’t Actually a Staring Contest
The goal of these exercises is not to get you immediately ready to look someone in the eyes when you talk to them. The goal is to get you to be more comfortable with the idea of making eye contact so that as you get more practice, you do not find yourself pulling away too easily. In the next blog post we will look for ways to improve eye contact rates and some strategies for helping you succeed in your job interview.
Take Away Interview Tips
- Practice by looking at yourself in the mirror.
- As a friend to practice looking you in the eyes for extended periods of time.
- Have fun and stay relaxed.
- Information on Interview Skills